I know what you mean, though. I had to take custody of my little sister for a few months last year. [There's a slight grimace.] It didn't work out. I'd hoped it could, but...you can't fix people. You can help them, but you can't change them by force.
[Amma was too far gone already. If she'd taken her away earlier, years earlier — realized that she'd needed to?
Hindsight is 20/20. For now, it's better to focus on what she can do. Kate is here, Amma is not. And it won't be just one tormented girl she has to worry about.]
Mmhm! She's being cared for by the best doctors anyone could get, and she even does her homework now.
[ that doesn't solve everything, but. it's better to be in a better place that allows healing versus somewhere that doesn't. ]
... yeah. I think if it was only me, I'm not sure I could have gotten her where she is. I think people sometimes assume that there's an easy solution to these sorts of things, and that just putting them in a new place is the end of things. But people are complicated. Children can be the most complicated of all.
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[ a pause. ]
Seeing things like that just kind of change a lot of things for you.
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That's great. She doing better now?
[As for herself?]
I know what you mean, though. I had to take custody of my little sister for a few months last year. [There's a slight grimace.] It didn't work out. I'd hoped it could, but...you can't fix people. You can help them, but you can't change them by force.
[Amma was too far gone already. If she'd taken her away earlier, years earlier — realized that she'd needed to?
Hindsight is 20/20. For now, it's better to focus on what she can do. Kate is here, Amma is not. And it won't be just one tormented girl she has to worry about.]
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[ that doesn't solve everything, but. it's better to be in a better place that allows healing versus somewhere that doesn't. ]
... yeah. I think if it was only me, I'm not sure I could have gotten her where she is. I think people sometimes assume that there's an easy solution to these sorts of things, and that just putting them in a new place is the end of things. But people are complicated. Children can be the most complicated of all.