Your child is a teenager whose brain hasn't developed equipped with a sharp object. And your man is an individual who is trying, but also has so much going on in his brain that he got defensive when I asked about it. You said it yourself that not everyone is them, and so uniquely incapable of helping.

[ they are trying their best and scien will acknowledge it but my god. he keeps having these conversations with people who are so used to taking care of others that they struggle to take care of themselves ]

I am not blaming you for not mentioning it this far—but it is something that you can take into your hands, and I support your decision to do so.

I am certain you will find yourself pleasantly surprised.